The Psychology of Identity Change
Behavior change occurs on three levels: outcomes, processes, and identity. Most people start by focusing on outcomes (what they want to achieve) and processes (how they will achieve it). The most powerful level of change, however, is the deepest: your identity (what you believe).
When you build an identity-based habit, you are no longer trying to force a behavior that contradicts your self-image. When someone offers a cigarette to a person trying to quit, they might say, "No thanks, I'm trying to quit."They still identify as a smoker who is trying to be something else. But an identity-based response is, "No thanks, I'm not a smoker." That small shift in language reflects a massive shift in belief.
How to Shift Your Identity in 2 Steps
- Decide the type of person you want to be. What are your principles and values? Who do you wish to become?
- Prove it to yourself with small wins. Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become. No single instance will transform your beliefs, but as the votes build up, so does the evidence of your new identity.
10 Examples of Identity-Based Habits
Here are 10 ways to shift from an outcome-focus to an identity-focus:
| The Outcome Focus | The Identity Focus |
|---|---|
| I want to lose 20 pounds. | I am the type of person who doesn't miss workouts. |
| I want to read 10 books this year. | I am a reader. |
| I want to run a marathon. | I am a runner. |
| I want to learn Spanish. | I am a dedicated learner. |
| I want to write a novel. | I am a writer who writes every single day. |
| I want to save $10,000. | I am financially responsible. |
| I want to eat a healthy diet. | I am the type of person who nourishes their body. |
| I want to get an A on my exam. | I am a diligent student. |
| I want to stop drinking alcohol. | I am a sober person. |
| I want to stop biting my nails. | I am a person who takes care of their hands. |
The Ultimate Habit Loop
Your habits shape your identity, and your identity shapes your habits. It is a continuous feedback loop. The goal is not to read a book, the goal is to become a reader. Once your identity is aligned with your habits, maintaining the habit becomes nearly effortlessbecause you are simply acting in alignment with who you are.